Why some people are married from other community.?
I am Monsy Jacob from Ranny; struggling to put together in the northeastern US for the last 19 years.
Why they drink? Why they marry from other communities? Why should we preserve our ethnicity? These are all subsections of the same topic.
Who are we?
We are the decedents of the 400 or so people who were Christians converted from Judaism who lived in the State of Edessa in the modern day Sanali Urfa of the Anatolia province of Turkey. Their leader was merchant Thomas who was a (kanai) zealous Christian. To go in a group to a barren-land and spread Christianity was the custom of Edessa Christians. In the 4th century Mabar (modern day Kerala had only pulayas, kuravas and dedans. The king was a pulayan; Cheraman perumal.
St. Thomas?
Thomas apostle visited India; the India of the 1st century. The southern border of the 1st century India was the Punjab and it extended to China; included all the places Alexander conquered. When the Roman Church found its root in India through the Portuguese; they made up the story of Mylapore and Malayatoore and mistakenly or deliberately; the books and studies published by Mundaden/velliyan; under the Roman church funding desperately tried to paint Thomas Apostle in the place of Thomas of Kana as the founder of church in south India. Other copycats(clueless about what they wrote) and others like E. M. P. who had other agendas to say that Thomas apostle started the church in Malabar. But now we know that the Nambuthyris whom the apstle is credited for converting came to the south only by the 7th century and also Sankara. Until then the language of Malabar coast was Tamil and it got mixed with Sanskrit to form manipravalam and then Malayalam. Now we know that the so called cross “discovered” in mylapore was not a symbol of Christianity during the time of St. Thomas. Now we agree that the book Acts of Thomas is a 3rd century lyric and that the theme and substance of the book is against Christian teachings.
Drinking?
Drinking was accepted in the roman church. When they invaded coerced and controlled the Syrian Christians of the Malabar Coast, drinking became a habit in the invaded Christians, north of kottayam and slowly leached southwards.
Drinking gives strength?
Alcohol gives some strength to the jelly balls (scrotum) of the knanaya youth; who are otherwise toe directed (always looking at their own toes when they meet the opposite sex). Drinking, kind of helps them to show their mother they are tough and not just listening to their wife unlike their own henpecked father. The typical mother is in her prime sleeping with a grand father (in performance) husband. None of the advocates of drinking have ever, ever offered a drink to their own sisters, why?
Some of the youth has a notion that women likes to be abused and crushed; and then only they would think high of the male. They got this idea observing the rooster mating the hen chasing, jumping up and holding her head down with his beak. They do not know that it is to avoid a slip and fall. This is more common with the modern youth. I learned about a few of them recently; where both spouses are well educated. In one case the husband transplanted to the west wants the wife to make the dough for dosa in the old attukallu; and not in a blender because it tastes better? In another case the husband threw away the dosa because he was served dosa the previous morning and hence belittled before his mother. Hence he demanded idly. The guy had no clue as usual that the component is the same. I know another mother and son/husband/stud (with jelly balls) who demands that the girl when falling sick should be taken care of by her parents. The calls the girls parents if she get sick. They take her to hospital; when healthy should bring her to him so that he can jump on her drunk/undrunk with his whole body weight on her. I know a modernist MIL(mother in law) who makes the DIL to serve dosa to the FIL one by one only after he finished the 1st. She has to wait, keeping it warm until the old man finishes. The MIL never did it by herself.
Few years ago in a pre-marital (or martial) sessions the councilor advised the women that when they get married; the next morning they should get up early; make coffee and bring two cups to the new mother-in-law; one for the mother-in-law and one for her son and the mother-in-law should bring the coffee to her son and thereby we gain favor the mother-in-law. The new wife knows that the right approach is to mix some erectile dysfunction drugs (like Viagra) in the father-in-laws coffee.
The knanaya girls prefer guys from other communities because they do not know how much more hen-pecked are the other guys. They do not know that they have to worry about his sisters and chettathies if they marry outside; exactly like the knanayas north of kottayam.
Solution?
We need to get back to where we were; when the man was the head of the house. The aviramapilas has to be publicly ridiculed. The mail chauvinism be treated as a mental disorder. The mail chauvinism preached and advocated by the clergy; which they received from the ayatollahs/Islam and their own sadism be dealt with by educating them. The ones who sermonize sahanam; kshama; surrender and mercy be told that their teaching should not be based on exploitation of the feeble. The females should be taught self respect; that they are not for abuse; to be a victim of abuse does not lead to sainthood but to unhealthy children. If you eat bullshit, it will not show that you belong to a “good” family; only a maggot family. Kick the husband who still is asking for permission from his mother when to have a baby OUT. At least kindly don’t re-produce that gene.
Thanks; Monsy